The year 2009 ended with some encouraging changes on the stage for people around the world.
Even though toxic individuals still are spreading their false and self -destructive beliefs, positive and spiritual forces are working with good intentions. The passionate, giving, and persistent side of human nature is moving forward.
Among the good news and many positive changes in 2009 there are few significant ones:
Finally, after years of division, American politicians decided to take action on the future of a dysfunctional health care system. Although, members of the Congress and the Senate were widely divided about the direction of health care in the future, they gave partial access and benefits to the American people, who are still last among the most industrialized nations and some developing countries. Access to quality health care and public education must be top priorities for any society as wealthy as is the United States. These two essential parts of daily living will improve the quality of life and help society to be more competent in a competitive global environment.
Both health care and educational systems need further advancement in quality and level of accessibility to all American people.
Finally, in year 2009, 192 nations agreed that there is a global warming problem and we must come up with a global solution. They put an end to the belief that global warming is another liberal idea, which is against economic growth. December 2009 is marked with an historical UN convention on climate change, in Copenhagen. It is a great start. It is another victory for people all over the world.
Finally, in 2009 more than ever before most nations agreed to stop the growing threat of terrorism and radicalism around the globe. Radical thinking has a tendency to ignore diversity and individual rights in society. Most of the time the radical approach is based on strong ideological views. When an individual, or group, comes to the conclusion that his/her religion or method of thinking is the only way to salvation, offering solutions to every problem, it will clear the way for elimination and harsh reactions to others. Beliefs and actions based on ideology, in any form, or shape, will lead to narrow and biased judgments. Historical evidence shows clear indications that use of force and close-minded views, in family environments, business settings, and other social groups will create the reverse outcome.
The majority of people and political leaders believe that a victory for the Taliban in Afghanistan and Pakistan would have catastrophic consequences for the people around the world. Radicalism is a major obstacle, in the East or the West, against human freedom and advancement. Extreme methods of teaching at home, in school, in religious institutions, and political environments are contrary to human needs for freedom, independence, giving, and forgiveness. Our nature as individuals is familiar with dynamic movement, communication, expression, cooperation, and togetherness. We are able to achieve these necessary qualities by following the laws of the universe and creating balance.
VISION FOR THE FUTURE
Let us hope for broader vision and more harmony between our actions and basic human needs in year 2010. Personal responsibility and narrowing the gap between our false-self and our true-self is the key to moving us forward.
Monday, December 28, 2009
Monday, December 7, 2009
WHAT WE DO & WHY WE DO IT
MEASURE YOUR TOXICITY
These days, with the power of media in our daily lives, I am sure the majority of people are familiar with toxicity in our drinking water, air, environment, and the food we eat daily. Most of the food we eat is processed food, with added chemicals and preservatives. Medical reports and responsible health care providers warn us about food and substances with potential toxicity to our bodies. Some individuals, and companies, with the intention to make huge profits, often using deceptive marketing techniques, encourage the public to buy different pills, drinks, and other substances to lose weight, lower cholesterol, look younger, and live longer. Contrary to medical research, mass-produced, quick-fix solutions, and services are the accepted norms. Therefore, knowingly, we add toxicity to our bodies and create difficulties for our internal organs, instead of helping them to operate naturally.
Living a healthy life should not be as complicated as it is. Lack of clarity and failing to prioritize the important aspects of our lives, are creating unsafe living conditions for us, and our children. Why? It does not have to be this way. Don’t you think we are able to do better than this?
Let’s focus on some of these toxicities in our daily lives, from personal, emotional, environmental, and political, just to name a few.
One of the most important problems our planet is facing is greenhouse gases: a dangerous pollutant. December 2009 is marked with historical UN convention on climate change in Copenhagen. Some 192-nations met, to come up with a universal plan to tackle climate change. The question is why we, in western society, who care so much about human life, nature, health, and living with joy and happiness, have ignored this significant problem for so many years?
Scientists have been talking about global warming and environmental catastrophe for years. Why do not our politicians and religious leaders, as powerful forces, and supporters of public health, morality, and freedom, do anything significant about it? What are their motives, that they knowingly put themselves, the next generation, and our children in a very dangerous situation?
Leaving the environment toxic is as bad as making Atomic bombs, and other weapons of mass destruction. They are all toxic and destructive to life and human society. Don't you think it is selfish and irresponsible, that under the name of "economic growth" some companies and their share holders continue to profit from creating future environmental disasters?
The decision to continue building weapons of mass destruction, and polluting the environment is influenced by our fear, our sense of insecurity, our lack of trust, and our vision of our leadership with Big "EGO." The point of the matter is that these are examples of toxic thinking and toxic perception. It is contrary to our religious beliefs, our morals, and our values, which we talk about every day.
Yes, we know that we have to be realistic and "it is the way it is." But, this is an out-dated mentality. For example, there was a time, in our recent past, that racism, sexism, and violations of people’s basic human rights—because of their race, gender or other differences—was acceptable to a large segment of our society. Those views are no longer acceptable today, because they were rooted in our fear, our insecurity, and our selfishness at that time in our history. Finally, society reached the obvious conclusion that we are not able to eliminate a group of people. As a result, we cleaned our consciousnesses and removed those obstacles for closeness and unity.
Unfortunately, with all our intellectual advancements, we still witness violations of basic human rights, using force to suppress protests, expressions of opinion, and political ideas, in most countries around the world: most of the time, in the name of God and national security. In reality, leaders are protecting their own, limited, group interests and selfish political ambitions. This is another example of serious toxic thinking.
TOXIC EMOTIONS AND THINKING
By moving from the surface, to a deeper level, we are able to track down the roots of our toxic personal, social, and political behaviors. It all starts right from the minute of our births.
Before birth, nature gave human beings the amazing gift of a magical body and brain. Let’s say, if an individual is born without any physical or cognitive disorder, that individual has the potential and intelligence to capture and achieve the highest level of success. We are born with these infinite possibilities and unlimited options.
From birth, based on our family background—including social background, cultural background, and financial background— we gradually build our levels of toxicity. Parents, or guardians, especially mothers have the most influence on children’s perceptions, and views. The child will hear and observe the mother’s happiness, sadness, stress, emotional high/low, behaviors. From the early days of life, the child will learn to please and respond to parent’s demands and ways of thinking. Children slowly understand that in order to survive, they must keep their parents happy and get their approval. Children start to view world from their parents, teacher’s, and coach's points of view.
During this process, "EGO" is beginning to form. As a result, we grow up under the influences of social-cultural environment. If these sets of norms, values, belief systems have toxic elements, such as narrow vision, judgmental and ideological views, we have the potential to carry similar toxic views during our adult life.
In addition to influences of social-family environment, imagine if we are exposed to other toxic elements during our upbringing period. Being exposed to physical abuse, verbal abuse, sexual abuse, addiction in the family, poverty, mental and emotional disorders, will contribute to our levels of toxicity. The side effects of these different kinds of instability and uncertainty will continue for many years. When a person has to live under fear of physical violence or the lack of love and affection needed to build compassion and empathy, that person has a higher chance of insecurity and toxic emotion.
For example, a couple who both were separated from their parents at an early age, are experiencing anxiety, fear, loneliness, and difficulties with trusting people. The wife was raised by her father, from age 5. She had difficulties overcoming the resentment toward her mother’s leaving her at an early age. The husband was sent overseas, to attend private school, at age 14. Both are intelligent, but with low emotional intelligence and maturity. They are overly sensitive; easily get hurt by each other, and other people. The “silent treatment” is their main weapon to protect themselves from others. The husband is successful in his business and spends most of his time working. The wife is feeling disconnected, lonely, and feels as a victim. They are not even enjoying their wealth. Their children also are in therapy for emotional difficulties.
Anger, resentment, jealousy, a need to control, sadness, anxiety, some level of depression, being revengeful, and violent tendencies are all examples of toxic emotions that we may feel and experience.
Things get worse when an individual knowingly continues the past levels of toxic beliefs and uses false rationalizations to justify that behavior. This rationalization is the way fundamentalism and ideological reasoning, in our political and religious beliefs find room to play a role.
In daily life, we witness this false justification of wrong action and thinking, in family, martial, business, and political settings. These individuals make a decision to use their toxicities for their personal gains, without regard for other people. Another dominate approach is “victim thinking.” It becomes convenient to blame family, parents, financial situations, and government for our failures. We forget to take a share of personal responsibility for the direction of our daily lives.
DETOXIFICATION
It is an obvious fact that we all have different degrees of toxicity. Some people have lower levels of it; some have higher levels of toxic emotion and thinking.
The good news is that we are capable of recognizing our toxicity and beginning the detoxification process in early adult life. It requires self awareness, motivation to change, being receptive to coaching, new ways of thinking, and taking action on a daily basis.
The first step is to be honest and take a hard look at our personality characteristics, values, beliefs, and behaviors. The second step is creating a plan of action, with clarity and consistency. The last step is to come out of “victim” thinking and take personal responsibility. As always, the ultimate tool for getting through this journey is taking action. The outcome is predictable. Peace and unity from within, and freedom of thinking in our personal, social, and political relationships.
It is your choice and your decision, to clean the past toxicity, and avoid building new toxic beliefs. It is an ongoing process. It needs ongoing action and self awareness.
Please also visit the website
http://www.drnazempoor.com
These days, with the power of media in our daily lives, I am sure the majority of people are familiar with toxicity in our drinking water, air, environment, and the food we eat daily. Most of the food we eat is processed food, with added chemicals and preservatives. Medical reports and responsible health care providers warn us about food and substances with potential toxicity to our bodies. Some individuals, and companies, with the intention to make huge profits, often using deceptive marketing techniques, encourage the public to buy different pills, drinks, and other substances to lose weight, lower cholesterol, look younger, and live longer. Contrary to medical research, mass-produced, quick-fix solutions, and services are the accepted norms. Therefore, knowingly, we add toxicity to our bodies and create difficulties for our internal organs, instead of helping them to operate naturally.
Living a healthy life should not be as complicated as it is. Lack of clarity and failing to prioritize the important aspects of our lives, are creating unsafe living conditions for us, and our children. Why? It does not have to be this way. Don’t you think we are able to do better than this?
Let’s focus on some of these toxicities in our daily lives, from personal, emotional, environmental, and political, just to name a few.
One of the most important problems our planet is facing is greenhouse gases: a dangerous pollutant. December 2009 is marked with historical UN convention on climate change in Copenhagen. Some 192-nations met, to come up with a universal plan to tackle climate change. The question is why we, in western society, who care so much about human life, nature, health, and living with joy and happiness, have ignored this significant problem for so many years?
Scientists have been talking about global warming and environmental catastrophe for years. Why do not our politicians and religious leaders, as powerful forces, and supporters of public health, morality, and freedom, do anything significant about it? What are their motives, that they knowingly put themselves, the next generation, and our children in a very dangerous situation?
Leaving the environment toxic is as bad as making Atomic bombs, and other weapons of mass destruction. They are all toxic and destructive to life and human society. Don't you think it is selfish and irresponsible, that under the name of "economic growth" some companies and their share holders continue to profit from creating future environmental disasters?
The decision to continue building weapons of mass destruction, and polluting the environment is influenced by our fear, our sense of insecurity, our lack of trust, and our vision of our leadership with Big "EGO." The point of the matter is that these are examples of toxic thinking and toxic perception. It is contrary to our religious beliefs, our morals, and our values, which we talk about every day.
Yes, we know that we have to be realistic and "it is the way it is." But, this is an out-dated mentality. For example, there was a time, in our recent past, that racism, sexism, and violations of people’s basic human rights—because of their race, gender or other differences—was acceptable to a large segment of our society. Those views are no longer acceptable today, because they were rooted in our fear, our insecurity, and our selfishness at that time in our history. Finally, society reached the obvious conclusion that we are not able to eliminate a group of people. As a result, we cleaned our consciousnesses and removed those obstacles for closeness and unity.
Unfortunately, with all our intellectual advancements, we still witness violations of basic human rights, using force to suppress protests, expressions of opinion, and political ideas, in most countries around the world: most of the time, in the name of God and national security. In reality, leaders are protecting their own, limited, group interests and selfish political ambitions. This is another example of serious toxic thinking.
TOXIC EMOTIONS AND THINKING
By moving from the surface, to a deeper level, we are able to track down the roots of our toxic personal, social, and political behaviors. It all starts right from the minute of our births.
Before birth, nature gave human beings the amazing gift of a magical body and brain. Let’s say, if an individual is born without any physical or cognitive disorder, that individual has the potential and intelligence to capture and achieve the highest level of success. We are born with these infinite possibilities and unlimited options.
From birth, based on our family background—including social background, cultural background, and financial background— we gradually build our levels of toxicity. Parents, or guardians, especially mothers have the most influence on children’s perceptions, and views. The child will hear and observe the mother’s happiness, sadness, stress, emotional high/low, behaviors. From the early days of life, the child will learn to please and respond to parent’s demands and ways of thinking. Children slowly understand that in order to survive, they must keep their parents happy and get their approval. Children start to view world from their parents, teacher’s, and coach's points of view.
During this process, "EGO" is beginning to form. As a result, we grow up under the influences of social-cultural environment. If these sets of norms, values, belief systems have toxic elements, such as narrow vision, judgmental and ideological views, we have the potential to carry similar toxic views during our adult life.
In addition to influences of social-family environment, imagine if we are exposed to other toxic elements during our upbringing period. Being exposed to physical abuse, verbal abuse, sexual abuse, addiction in the family, poverty, mental and emotional disorders, will contribute to our levels of toxicity. The side effects of these different kinds of instability and uncertainty will continue for many years. When a person has to live under fear of physical violence or the lack of love and affection needed to build compassion and empathy, that person has a higher chance of insecurity and toxic emotion.
For example, a couple who both were separated from their parents at an early age, are experiencing anxiety, fear, loneliness, and difficulties with trusting people. The wife was raised by her father, from age 5. She had difficulties overcoming the resentment toward her mother’s leaving her at an early age. The husband was sent overseas, to attend private school, at age 14. Both are intelligent, but with low emotional intelligence and maturity. They are overly sensitive; easily get hurt by each other, and other people. The “silent treatment” is their main weapon to protect themselves from others. The husband is successful in his business and spends most of his time working. The wife is feeling disconnected, lonely, and feels as a victim. They are not even enjoying their wealth. Their children also are in therapy for emotional difficulties.
Anger, resentment, jealousy, a need to control, sadness, anxiety, some level of depression, being revengeful, and violent tendencies are all examples of toxic emotions that we may feel and experience.
Things get worse when an individual knowingly continues the past levels of toxic beliefs and uses false rationalizations to justify that behavior. This rationalization is the way fundamentalism and ideological reasoning, in our political and religious beliefs find room to play a role.
In daily life, we witness this false justification of wrong action and thinking, in family, martial, business, and political settings. These individuals make a decision to use their toxicities for their personal gains, without regard for other people. Another dominate approach is “victim thinking.” It becomes convenient to blame family, parents, financial situations, and government for our failures. We forget to take a share of personal responsibility for the direction of our daily lives.
DETOXIFICATION
It is an obvious fact that we all have different degrees of toxicity. Some people have lower levels of it; some have higher levels of toxic emotion and thinking.
The good news is that we are capable of recognizing our toxicity and beginning the detoxification process in early adult life. It requires self awareness, motivation to change, being receptive to coaching, new ways of thinking, and taking action on a daily basis.
The first step is to be honest and take a hard look at our personality characteristics, values, beliefs, and behaviors. The second step is creating a plan of action, with clarity and consistency. The last step is to come out of “victim” thinking and take personal responsibility. As always, the ultimate tool for getting through this journey is taking action. The outcome is predictable. Peace and unity from within, and freedom of thinking in our personal, social, and political relationships.
It is your choice and your decision, to clean the past toxicity, and avoid building new toxic beliefs. It is an ongoing process. It needs ongoing action and self awareness.
Please also visit the website
http://www.drnazempoor.com
Wednesday, December 2, 2009
WHAT WE DO & WHY WE DO IT
HOLISTIC VISION
Freedom of thinking and being open and flexible, in our perception, is the ultimate stage of self-actualization. You can have financial success, higher academic achievement, and position with power, but with limited vision and a high degree of judgmental thinking, you are not living with peace and confidence.
To reach the higher level of freedom of thinking, first we must learn to detox our bodies, our emotions, our beliefs, and our perceptions. In order to start the process of detoxification, first we must admit and recognize our toxicities. Let’s be honest with ourselves and recognize the obstacles to our journey of reaching freedom.
Another important tool in reaching freedom of thinking is use of critical thinking. It is a necessary element in evaluating people, and circumstances. Critical thinking enables us to analyze, explain, understand, and restructure the situation. Critical thinking gives us the power to identify prejudice, distortion, bias, misinformation, propaganda, and poor judgment.
A critical thinker raises vital questions when facing problems in family, relationships, and social environments. You must gather and assess relevant information, avoid your personal bias and your toxic emotions. There is no room for assumptions, inaccurate, unclear, or irrelevant information: relying on gossip, word of mouth, "he said, she said," will weaken your judgment and conclusion.
In relationships, we witness some couples rely on narrow, shallow information, jealousy, and accusation to judge their spouses. As a result, they create a toxic environment for hurt feelings, lack of trust, and lack of intimacy in their families.
In society, due to ignorance, biased thinking, and propaganda—with use of media—social and political groups stage dishonest and inaccurate fights against each other’s interests.
The assignment for today: recognize your limited beliefs and ways of thinking in relation to other individuals, social groups, and your personal life. Are you using your critical thinking to evaluate friends, family members, co-workers, and political leaders? Or, is your judgment based on your quick, emotional, highs and lows, just to release your anger and frustration.
Where is our spiritual and personal responsibility?
CONSEQUENCE
To be free, and realistic, in our thinking and decision making process, we must be broad and holistic in our vision. In any decision making process, social, personal, or political, as leaders, we need to look at existing facts, considering everybody involved. Looking at our own limited personal and group benefits as the sole rationale for our decisions as leaders diminishes our power and source of guidance and hope for the people. Ultimately as leaders in social, business, and political settings, we become people without popular support. We lower our effectiveness to our own personal and group interests.
You may ask the expected question. Is it possible to represent the interests of everybody in each social group? Obviously, with the current mind set, it seems impossible that a political leader can fight for the interests and the needs of everybody in society. A leader also has sets of beliefs and values. How is an individual in position of power able to ignore his/her own group identity and group interests. This is the way we learned to think when it comes to leadership and representing a larger group in society. As a result of this mentality, and collective false beliefs, our society is facing separation, hate, and antagonistic conflicts.
How, in modern society, are we able to change this wide division, self-centered, and group-focused perception? It requires a new way of thinking. This vision must integrate self- interest with larger social group’s interests. For example, when comes to creating a health care system, that provides reasonable care for every member of society, we are divided. One group insists on cost increases, and describe it a bad idea for private insurance companies. What is the alternative? For many years a large segment of society, for whatever reasons, was not able to have access to a health care system when, it needed medical attention. We all understand about costs, and insurance company’s profits. Yes, they are in business of making money.
What is a responsible solution to put an end to this crisis and long term social problem? To create a holistic solution we need broad vision, spiritual and critical thinking. Differences of opinion are healthy. Not finding a mutual and win-win solution, because of our narrow vision, is destructive and creates division. This mentality puts a multinational corporation on the verge of bankruptcy. It will diminish the Imperial power and its broad based public support. Past history has clear evidence to show.
We talk about unity, democracy, and promising the hope of creating a free world. However, in action, we represent a segment of population, and represent our own limited ideological and financial interests. In spiritual and religious beliefs, we follow the same mentality. Our religious leaders talk about God, humanity, kindness, love, and giving. In action, they follow their limited vision and scope of thinking, which is all about their own beliefs and religion. As a result, other believers ultimately go to hell and if it is necessary, we even will harm them as non-believers.
Why are not we able to have a broader perspective and just, at least partially, follow our own daily talks?
In our personal lives, being unrealistic and narrow in our vision creates low confidence, doubtfulness, and fear. As a result, through time, the outcomes of our decisions produce a sense of failure, and indecisiveness. This limited way of thinking also creates a sense of loneliness, disconnection with people and close friends and family members, and isolation in our community.
For example, controlling and a rigid way of thinking in a family as a husband and father gradually destroy open communication, friendship, and closeness. Children grow up with fear of expressing their opinion, and views. They hide their feelings and build resentment and anger toward their family and other sources of authority and power.
As individuals, when we are not in touch with our internal beliefs and values, then in action we contradict ourselves. We talk about equality between men and women in modern society. In a family environment, in a business setting, and in relationships, men have a tendency to undermine women's rights. On the other side, women develop “victim” thinking, and blame men for all their shortcomings and injustice. Women hide behind male aggression and their controlling behaviors. As a result, they avoid taking responsibility, and ultimately, avoid action toward becoming more assertive in all social settings.
In any position, we need to focus on developing the habitual intention to be truth-seeking, with clarity about our values and vision. Being open-minded, having purpose, and meaning, being confident in reasoning, and being prudent in making judgments are important characteristics in reaching freedom of thinking. It is possible to achieve internal peace through freedom in thinking and vision. It is your choice to walk through this journey.
Please visit the Website
Freedom of thinking and being open and flexible, in our perception, is the ultimate stage of self-actualization. You can have financial success, higher academic achievement, and position with power, but with limited vision and a high degree of judgmental thinking, you are not living with peace and confidence.
To reach the higher level of freedom of thinking, first we must learn to detox our bodies, our emotions, our beliefs, and our perceptions. In order to start the process of detoxification, first we must admit and recognize our toxicities. Let’s be honest with ourselves and recognize the obstacles to our journey of reaching freedom.
Another important tool in reaching freedom of thinking is use of critical thinking. It is a necessary element in evaluating people, and circumstances. Critical thinking enables us to analyze, explain, understand, and restructure the situation. Critical thinking gives us the power to identify prejudice, distortion, bias, misinformation, propaganda, and poor judgment.
A critical thinker raises vital questions when facing problems in family, relationships, and social environments. You must gather and assess relevant information, avoid your personal bias and your toxic emotions. There is no room for assumptions, inaccurate, unclear, or irrelevant information: relying on gossip, word of mouth, "he said, she said," will weaken your judgment and conclusion.
In relationships, we witness some couples rely on narrow, shallow information, jealousy, and accusation to judge their spouses. As a result, they create a toxic environment for hurt feelings, lack of trust, and lack of intimacy in their families.
In society, due to ignorance, biased thinking, and propaganda—with use of media—social and political groups stage dishonest and inaccurate fights against each other’s interests.
The assignment for today: recognize your limited beliefs and ways of thinking in relation to other individuals, social groups, and your personal life. Are you using your critical thinking to evaluate friends, family members, co-workers, and political leaders? Or, is your judgment based on your quick, emotional, highs and lows, just to release your anger and frustration.
Where is our spiritual and personal responsibility?
CONSEQUENCE
To be free, and realistic, in our thinking and decision making process, we must be broad and holistic in our vision. In any decision making process, social, personal, or political, as leaders, we need to look at existing facts, considering everybody involved. Looking at our own limited personal and group benefits as the sole rationale for our decisions as leaders diminishes our power and source of guidance and hope for the people. Ultimately as leaders in social, business, and political settings, we become people without popular support. We lower our effectiveness to our own personal and group interests.
You may ask the expected question. Is it possible to represent the interests of everybody in each social group? Obviously, with the current mind set, it seems impossible that a political leader can fight for the interests and the needs of everybody in society. A leader also has sets of beliefs and values. How is an individual in position of power able to ignore his/her own group identity and group interests. This is the way we learned to think when it comes to leadership and representing a larger group in society. As a result of this mentality, and collective false beliefs, our society is facing separation, hate, and antagonistic conflicts.
How, in modern society, are we able to change this wide division, self-centered, and group-focused perception? It requires a new way of thinking. This vision must integrate self- interest with larger social group’s interests. For example, when comes to creating a health care system, that provides reasonable care for every member of society, we are divided. One group insists on cost increases, and describe it a bad idea for private insurance companies. What is the alternative? For many years a large segment of society, for whatever reasons, was not able to have access to a health care system when, it needed medical attention. We all understand about costs, and insurance company’s profits. Yes, they are in business of making money.
What is a responsible solution to put an end to this crisis and long term social problem? To create a holistic solution we need broad vision, spiritual and critical thinking. Differences of opinion are healthy. Not finding a mutual and win-win solution, because of our narrow vision, is destructive and creates division. This mentality puts a multinational corporation on the verge of bankruptcy. It will diminish the Imperial power and its broad based public support. Past history has clear evidence to show.
We talk about unity, democracy, and promising the hope of creating a free world. However, in action, we represent a segment of population, and represent our own limited ideological and financial interests. In spiritual and religious beliefs, we follow the same mentality. Our religious leaders talk about God, humanity, kindness, love, and giving. In action, they follow their limited vision and scope of thinking, which is all about their own beliefs and religion. As a result, other believers ultimately go to hell and if it is necessary, we even will harm them as non-believers.
Why are not we able to have a broader perspective and just, at least partially, follow our own daily talks?
In our personal lives, being unrealistic and narrow in our vision creates low confidence, doubtfulness, and fear. As a result, through time, the outcomes of our decisions produce a sense of failure, and indecisiveness. This limited way of thinking also creates a sense of loneliness, disconnection with people and close friends and family members, and isolation in our community.
For example, controlling and a rigid way of thinking in a family as a husband and father gradually destroy open communication, friendship, and closeness. Children grow up with fear of expressing their opinion, and views. They hide their feelings and build resentment and anger toward their family and other sources of authority and power.
As individuals, when we are not in touch with our internal beliefs and values, then in action we contradict ourselves. We talk about equality between men and women in modern society. In a family environment, in a business setting, and in relationships, men have a tendency to undermine women's rights. On the other side, women develop “victim” thinking, and blame men for all their shortcomings and injustice. Women hide behind male aggression and their controlling behaviors. As a result, they avoid taking responsibility, and ultimately, avoid action toward becoming more assertive in all social settings.
In any position, we need to focus on developing the habitual intention to be truth-seeking, with clarity about our values and vision. Being open-minded, having purpose, and meaning, being confident in reasoning, and being prudent in making judgments are important characteristics in reaching freedom of thinking. It is possible to achieve internal peace through freedom in thinking and vision. It is your choice to walk through this journey.
Please visit the Website
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